She must be seeing a lawyer...what now?

[Awoken]

Thanks PG (sister and flowmom too).

so much of what you said is very true.

Still, I know that my W's bipolar does not define my marriage. A large part of the failure in my marriage has been my responsibility. It would be very easy for me to blame it all on her bipolar and her self-medicating with alcohol. But it wouldn't be honest.

One important part of DBing (I think) is to come to terms with your own contributions to the failure of the M, and to improve yourself. In the long run, you don't want to repeat your mistakes. We've been married for 16 years, and at some point I must have just given up trying to connect with her. It's been a pretty painful "awakening" to realize how much denial I've been in about my situation, and how much I've contributed to it.

I found your own self-examination in our own thread to be very moving; I so wish I had been able to do that BEFORE my M reached the state it is now. Of course, things may have still gone the way they have.