One day at a time....

[pearlharbr]

I've always bought myself flowers, even pre-BF. I love how they cheer me up. It's nice when BF does it but I certainly can't count on it. I would do what you're doing, stew about how he's not making any effort. Then I would remind myself that if I want something done I'd just better do it myself.

Never give up your own GAL activities! Yes, in piecing you have to make room for the other person and work on a shared life. But that doesn't mean you should give up yourself completely. That's what got us here in the first place! Always find time for yourself.