I don't know if I would say file or not file. All I know is you have to process your feelings about all this stuff. Your IC can help you do that. If you're filing cause he has been and as*hole or that he doesn't respect you that's not enough to carry you through this. This has to be something you decide after getting to a a healthly place so you own it not in reaction to something somebody did to you.
I made that mistake when I ended my first marriage. Someoone has an affair you end the marriage but you don't understand it. You carry that anger, pain and uncertainty around for awhile until finally it just stops hurting as much but it doesn't go away. If you ignore this you will give it power. Look at it staight in the face and own it and understand it. You will make this decision from a place of strength, not weekness or uncertainty.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
