Hey, Flow... do it!!! I am pretty mindfullllllllll.... You don't even had to ask me. I'll tell ya! LoL Exercise is good. Bonus - Hot men on bike/running paths! Haha
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
They're such nice companions. Never a bad mood, either! Tail a waggin', smile on his face, just glad to be w/MOM!
So when the dog acts that way how do you treat the dog in return?
Men are like dogs - easy to train, eager to please, loyal, and protective. Basic needs: eat, sleep, play ball/hunt and pet them. They can also learn bad habits and learned helplessness (Seligman).
The Dog Whisperer can teach us a lot about relationships:
Quote:
Many of my clients call their dog their soul mate or their baby, but the dog tears up the furniture and drags them all over the neighborhood on a walk. The client pleads with the dog to behave, cajoles the dog, and offers her treats with no change in the dog’s behavior.
Why? Dogs are animals, and they respond to calm-assertive leadership—not emotional arguments or negotiations. If you have a dog in your life, it is important to understand how to allow her to live in a balanced way and achieve a healthy state of mind.
Dogs have found themselves in an odd predicament by living with humans. In the wild, dogs don’t need humans to achieve balance. They have a pack leader, work for food, and travel with the pack. But when we bring them into our world, we need to help them achieve balance by fulfilling their needs as nature intended them to be.
How does this work? Through my fulfillment formula: exercise, then discipline, and finally, affection. As the human pack leader, you must set rules, boundaries, and limitations and always project a calm-assertive energy.
When you fulfill your dog on a primal level as nature intended, you will feel in tune with your dog and connect with your dog in a deeper way. Put your dog's needs first, and take responsibility for our dog's state of mind. Only then will you experience all the love your dog has to give!
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
ummmm. Coach, how could you forget a vital basic need? I'll give you a hint: rhymes with HEX!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
I think I did this (exercise, then discipline, and finally, affection) this weekend. I ran him around town on errands, since he was being a pisser, then I called him on being a pisser, then I told him what a good boy he was being afterwards! LoL
Actually, I need to chew all of what you said. (LIKE A DOG!) That's some pretty good stuff.
Thanks for taking the time to pull that stuff over!
BUT I'M NOT PICKING UP HIS POOP IN THE YARD!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Boys love languages? Kicking a ball, Shooting a ball, Throwing a ball... LoL
very funny!!! I guess start shooting, kicking and throwing a ball at them! lol
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Just finished my Couch to 5k run for the day. It's Day One, Week Five. Here's what we did... 29 minutes from 130 to 140 BPM BPM CHART 5 min. warmup @ 130 BPM 5 min. @ 140 BPM 3 min. @ 131 BPM 5 min. @ 140 BPM 3 min. @ 131 BPM 5 min. @ 140 BPM 2 min. 30 sec. cooldown @ 130 BPM
It's hot here, too! Well, at least it felt that way running! It's 58 and sunny! Yahoo!
Nothing new on M front... H left to go out of town for work yesterday, and he'll be back for dinner tomorrow night. After the weekend pissiness, I am enjoying the peace and quiet! LoL
But, poor S12 is really, really sick. Started out w/stomach flu, that I had over the weekend, and I'm starting to think he might have strep. So, we'll give it until tomorrow am, and take him in to the Dr. His birthday is Saturday, so we need to handle this! Also, he has SO much to catch up on in school if he misses. Poor guy!!
I'm waiting for S10 to get it... That's usually how it goes!
D18 called last night, and wanted to come and spend the night. Missed home. So, she came later in the evening to, #1 - raid the refrigerator, and #2 - to watch cable tv. Funny. One of her best girlfriends came, too. They slept in front of the tv. Just like the old days! She just left about an hour to go. Gotta love college students schedules!
Off to shop for something for S12 for his birthday. And, I STILL DON'T HAVE A DRESS FOR FRIDAY NIGHT!!!
Grrrr
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
hey, found this unique bit of info for those of us trying to lose weight...
Why Does Too Much or Too Little Sleep Cause Weight Gain?
The physiological functions of virtually all organisms are governed by 24-hour circadian rhythms. Your circadian clock is an essential time-tracking system, which your body uses to anticipate environmental changes and adapt to the appropriate time of day.
Your circadian rhythm has evolved over hundreds of generations to align your physiology with your environment, and your body clock assumes that like your ancestors, you sleep at night and stay awake during daylight hours.
If you confuse the situation by depriving yourself of enough hours of sleep, or even eating meals at odd hours (times at which your internal clock expects you to be sleeping), you send conflicting signals to your body.
One way this occurs is by altering levels of important hormones linked with appetite and eating behavior. When you are sleep deprived, your body decreases production of leptin, the hormone that tells your brain there is no need for more food. At the same time it increases levels of ghrelin, a hormone that triggers hunger.
In one study, researchers found people who received only four hours of sleep a night for two nights experienced:
* 18 percent reduction in leptin * 28 percent increase in ghrelin
So, we need to keep round 7 hours of sleep each night, because it also showed those who slept over 8 hours had an increase in abdominal fat too, just not as much as sleep deprived.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
sorry about your s12.. hopefully s10 won't catch it
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
sorry about your s12.. hopefully s10 won't catch it