My WH was abandoned by his father - when his mom was pregnant with him. His father remarried and left the country. They somehow reconnected 15 years later. WH said that he can't love him like a father. His mom never got over the anger and bitterness and was depressed all her life, she never remarried, lived alone until she passed away. WH grew-up without any male influence in his life.
So he really fits the MLC profile
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
Jack, cyclone, Grace, Drew, kissak. Thanks for your advice. I'm beginning to see your point. I had a bit of "not right" feeling in my gut when talking with OW's H, but I was ignoring it. In some ways it feels good to talk to someone who really knows and to get "fresh" information from the "other side", but also I feel that I'm betraying my WH (as weird as that may sound) by sharing info about him.
Originally Posted By: kissak
Mila, My H got really upset with me for talking to his OW's H behind her back. Of course later I found out that her H was exagerating alot of what he told me.
Just my opinion. Grace is right though...there isnt much point in talking to him.
Yes my husband gets upset when something I say gets back to him through OW and you are right, OW's H does exaggerate; I guess to drive his point in better. My WH told me that OW's H takes everything I tell him and uses it against him to paint him like a looser and nobody to OW.
So I guess this may be working against me.....
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
God forbid that a lying, cheating, disrespectful, cruel WAS should "get mad" just because you don't cooperate with their disgusting behavior.
Knowledge is power. Keep talking to the ow h and don't feel bad about "snooping." You guys own a business together and you are being strung along until your h and his whore can get THEIR ducks in a row.
Pissing him off should be the least of your concerns.
Kimmie, when I'm angry I feel just as you do. But I need to look at the situation from the "outside". I should be thinking about "the big picture", what do I want to accomplish and would this approach give me that?
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
Ahhh... I don't know? Not really trying to stir, I just can't help it sometimes. I have a smile on my face As The World Turns. I'm really starting to appreciate these Days of Our Lives.
