Does anybody see something wrong with me having my son full time while W goes to night school (planed and payed for before she split)? I guess I'm asking if it's anti DB. No way do I have a problem having my son full time.
She was going to have FIL watch him the nights she would normally have him. I told her he is my son not FIL, I would rather he stay with me. Should I have told her to get a sitter?
I'm trying to put myself in her shoes. She is stressed out with the divorce , going back to school, not seeing her son for basically two months, no money.... I don't want to be a prick but I don't want this to be something she walks all over me for either.
Yesterday being her first day, she called me 6 times (no I didn't answer each time). Once to tell S8 goodnight, but the rest to talk about her school experience. Then when she got home (FIL house) she sent a text wanting to know if my "heads" were still up. This is at 10:45, she has to get up for work at 5 am. I asked what she had in mind...we sexted for about an hour. It was fun.
How do I detach if she keeps "wanting" me in some form or another? Say no right! It's hard to say no when it comes to her showing me any kind of interest. She went from not wanting me around at all to what we have now. I keep asking myself what the hell is she up to? She filed for D & papers will be served soon. Is she trying to soften the blow, let me down easy?
She is being real nice. Maybe because I eased some of her stress, or she's kissing my a$$ for helping her out. Maybe it's legitimate.
She is so worried we won't friends, she could be trying to stay friendly so I do. Just like when I stay cool, calm, & confident. She responds to this quite well, it amazes me how I can change her mood buy just being in that state of mind. Several times she has been confrontational, angry, yelling, and I stay c.c.c. Stops her dead in her tracks, she will apologize and correct her behavior.
I can't tell if she is reacting to my detachment or if she is detached her self and this is how she will act around me.
