Jack, cyclone, Grace, Drew, kissak. Thanks for your advice. I'm beginning to see your point. I had a bit of "not right" feeling in my gut when talking with OW's H, but I was ignoring it. In some ways it feels good to talk to someone who really knows and to get "fresh" information from the "other side", but also I feel that I'm betraying my WH (as weird as that may sound) by sharing info about him.

Originally Posted By: kissak
Mila,
My H got really upset with me for talking to his OW's H behind her back. Of course later I found out that her H was exagerating alot of what he told me.

Just my opinion. Grace is right though...there isnt much point in talking to him.


Yes my husband gets upset when something I say gets back to him through OW and you are right, OW's H does exaggerate; I guess to drive his point in better. My WH told me that OW's H takes everything I tell him and uses it against him to paint him like a looser and nobody to OW.

So I guess this may be working against me.....

M53 H54 D17
M33Y T38Y
Bomb OW 09/09
OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10
WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10
Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO