I'm not at all bitter, I'm not trying to get back at her and the last thing I want to do is hurt her. If anything, I take responsibility for all this, since I'm the one that left.
I just don't want to be the option for her and the the back-up plan. Although I want more than anything for us to work our marriage out, I also know that I can't wait forever, especially if what I'm doing is not working. At some point I need to try and get on with my life. If I'm seeing other woman, it does not mean that I closed the book on our marriage. If it makes her think and come back to me, I'll probably still want to be with her and I'll try and work it out.
I think those are the right reasons. I have waited for a long time and this is not at all about revenge.
