Mila, I had quite a few conversations with the OW's ex's. Shoot, I even had quite a few with the OW herself. I found it absolutely NO help at all to hear what they had to say because most times they were adding their own opinions to what had happened. They are hurt too and may say whatever they can to hopefully have the same outcome that you are wanting...to drive that wedge in between them, to cause doubts....Really, it just prolongs the death of their relationship, and will cause you more hurt by telling you things about what theyve done that you really dont want to know.

I will tell you what others told me...dont communicate with her H. My H got really upset with me for talking to his OW's H behind her back. Of course later I found out that her H was exagerating alot of what he told me.

Just my opinion. Grace is right though...there isnt much point in talking to him.

Kissak

"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3
M-37 H-37
S-10, D-15
M- 1993
First bomb- 12/23/06
Came and went too MANY times!
Gone again 10-25-10