Some days I'm not even sure if I can ever forgive my WH for the pain that he is causing.
He really lives by the motto: "Everything is Fair in Love and War". Just because he "Feels" that he is in "Love" he can destroy lives, families and innocent children and just go after what he wants over dead bodies?
I was just listening to OW's husband telling me what my dear WH said to OW about our marriage and about the state of our business...lies...lies...lies. Does he really believe what he is telling her or is he so delusional.
Last edited by Mila; 03/16/1002:21 AM.
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
So what do you think, maybe I shouldn't be talking to OW's husband? I know that we talk to support each other through this, but I also know that he has used some information I shared with him (like how badly is our business doing) with the OW because she was telling him that my H has a successful business. And my husband was upset that I'm talking with OW Husband. Her husband is very financially successful and he was just trying to make her see what she would be trading for; a guy in MLC with business in trouble and family to support.
Last edited by Mila; 03/16/1005:25 AM.
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
I don't know how much your D dates (or if she's ever come home with a boyfriend that makes you want to slam your head in a door or even better his head in a door), but trying to drive a wedge in between them will guarantee that she's "in love" with him and he's "the one". Same goes for your H.
Personally, I wouldn't be talking with the OW's H. I wouldn't see the point and the two of you are having intimate convo's albeit regarding your wayward spouces. It's not a position I would care to be in. The fifty cent question is: do you really feel better after these convo's? If so, why?
Mila, I had quite a few conversations with the OW's ex's. Shoot, I even had quite a few with the OW herself. I found it absolutely NO help at all to hear what they had to say because most times they were adding their own opinions to what had happened. They are hurt too and may say whatever they can to hopefully have the same outcome that you are wanting...to drive that wedge in between them, to cause doubts....Really, it just prolongs the death of their relationship, and will cause you more hurt by telling you things about what theyve done that you really dont want to know.
I will tell you what others told me...dont communicate with her H. My H got really upset with me for talking to his OW's H behind her back. Of course later I found out that her H was exagerating alot of what he told me.
Just my opinion. Grace is right though...there isnt much point in talking to him.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
