2) She just caught wind of the fact that there is an OW in your picture. Her jealousy button was pushed.
What's done is done bro.
This still applies:
Originally Posted By: Gnosis
Keep on enjoying your life because it's too short to waste on regrets.
The above quote is what is yanking her chain and will continue to bug her for a long time. That's not your problem. She chose the path she wanted to take. Now she's starting to see the consequences. I'm glad for you that you're on good terms with MIL.
The only additional thing I have to say is take the appropriate steps to protect your kids from leaving the country.
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
Exactly! She has nothing to say about it, and she knows it, which is why she said nothing to me. Her ability to show me one thing while strongly feeling another is impressive! I would love for her to say one thing about it to me.
As you say v1olin, this is all an issue of control, and she hates how all this is spinning out of her control. She is now realizing she has no control over me anymore. Last year if we had had a phone argument, within a day I would have been trying to smooth things over. Not any more.
I agree with CG. Something went wrong with her wonderful fantasy of living the exotic life of luxury in a foreign country with her lover.
It could be he dumped her, could be the job didn't pan out, could be financial... or it could be you finally putting your foot down on her neck and making her realize that there is no way in hell you will let your children leave the country.
Who knows, who cares. She is a lying, deceitful, cowardly and fogged out irrational creature. Trying to decipher and understand it will only drive you insane so stop doing it.
Keep moving on Mr Future Rock Star... there are new women on the horizon. Keep your eyes focused on the correct objective.
EDIT: Additionally...
If OM dropped her she is following plan B. i.e. Drop Future a bone and have him come yapping back like a good puppy. Keep stringing him along to get what she wants until a better option comes along. It's called survival instinct.
I think OM had already effectively dumped her last fall. Her mother essentially told me so. Her subsequent nasty attitude toward me and our M then finally was the last straw for me and I dumped her too. I think she then put together her ridiculous plan to do this international work to try to entice OM back. Sounds like her plan failed, now she's all alone, and she's realizing she's lost control of half of her kids' lives.
My gut tells me she wants to get something back from me to ease her anxiety over my apparent moving on. I will ignore her message.
