Somewhere I read that it is a month for every year that you are together. I suppose in my case that is about right(counting from the time of the divorce). The other relationship if we want to give it that much weight, started 4 years ago next month. I found about it 4 years ago this June. We have been divorced 19 months almost and we were married that long.
It isn't that I didn't feel better before now just that in this past month or so, I have been letting go of the physical remnants he left behind. I am sure I will find more and will need to pass them on.
Don't think about a time line. Everyone is different but don't be surprised that it does take time. Hang in there.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory