Holy Crap! Didn't expect THIS!

[Dom R]

oh, PS:

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He won't really talk to me except to say he is depressed and feels like a failure.
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In fact, Mr "I'm-in-it-to-win-it" would readily admit he is not "in it". I tried to get him to talk last night and he was like "You can't squeeze blood from a stone" and when I said I really REALLY needed him to talk to me and engage, all he could say was "yeah, I know."

remember, most men hate to talk, and they especially hate "talking about their feelings".

This is not a battle you need to win. It would help more to simply make him feel better.

It is said that women feel better, by talking about their feelings. (most)Men are the opposite!!
Go DO stuff with him, if you want to make him feel better.

Stop trying to get him to talk about it.