Holy Crap! Didn't expect THIS!

[Dom R]

Hey Dom-
(wave)

I asked him about his wedding ring and he admitted he hasn't taken the time to look for it (he's "just too overwhelmed") but he is pretty sure he hid it somewhere.

Dont accept excuses any more. For anything,but ESPECIALLY on something that important.
If he's too lazy or lost to find it, then insist that he buy a new one. Is it more important that he wear THAT one, or that he wear "a" wedding ring?

A simple gold band, is not particularly expensive. Dont ask him, TELL him, "if you're truly in this like you said, than our marriage needs to be your #1 priority. time to put up or shut up. In the next 2 hours, I want you to show me it is #1, by wearing a wedding ring, from now on. Starting today. If you cant find the one you used to have, then go buy one. Right. Now. Any excuses you make, are literally you saying 'no, but [excuse] is more important than our marriage' "

I know you are right that I could "show" him something...but he is just.....UGH!

and while we're on the topic of excuses... excuses should no longer be acceptable... from him, OR YOU!

You need to show him positives together. Whether you feel like it or not.
Whether he deserves it or not. That's a basic fundamental of marriage: being good to the other person, even when they dont deserve it.

That will help him do his part faster also.

You might want to do this part, before you get all pushy about the wedding ring