Are there signs?

[Wildaces81]

She may not know either so STOP pushing!

Your right, I haven't really been pushing, i don't talk about our relationship. I haven't asked her to make dates for now or for the future. The only time we have spent together is as a family with our kids

Are U saying that she is a crappy person or are you. In either case neither of you are crappy people. Keep your thoughts positive. Positive.

I'm saying she is a crappy person. Because of what she has done and what she is doing. she is more interested in hanging out with people that are 4 to 5 years younger, that have no children and getting to go out and party.

Yes it is hard but YOU can do it. Stop thinking of the future and take it ONE day at a time. One day at a time.

I was doing this, but Monday seemed to be the wrong side of the bed and it has carried into today. I honestly have always been someone who has thought of the future and regretted the past. This is one of my goals. To live for the day, through God and for God, not for me.

Maybe you should try and look at it from a different perspective. Maybe you should consider that she does see you everyday and so you have a chance to SHOW her your changes. This sounds a little more positive don't ya think?

Yes it does sound more positive and I need someone like you eric to point it out to me. Its a good thing I found this site because I would be absolutely lost with out it and people like you, rr22, and maynard.

Then stop trying to be someone else - don't worry about what they think - do YOU like your changes? Your really the only one that matters at this point. Stop trying to live for everyone else and live for yourself. May sound a little selfish but it is not. Just work on YOU - what do YOU want that does not involve your W? Look deep you will find the answer.

I do like the changes I have made but they are tiny and i just need to keep a PMA and be motivated to do them more. I have actually kept the majority of my house clean for the past week and a half. Which is a miracle when two children are concerned.

Look dude your human - be gentle on yourself - cut yourself a little slack man. Your gonna have those up and downs but you need to find a way to control them. Pray, go for a walk, work out do something. But PLEASE>>> be gentle on yourself just don't let her see you struggling.

Thank you for the punches eric, I need them. I need to stay positive. I just let that worm of doubt sneak in all to often.

Once again you are normal - you've just experienced major shock - cut your self some slack. Now let me ask you a question....would you prefer to wallon in sorrow or pick yourself up like the man that you are and move forward? Which one is it Wild - I know the answer do you?

I want to move forward. I want to stand tall and be better than I was. I don't want to be where I am at right now. I want to be a good man, and an awesome father.

You cannot make her wake up by begging and pleading but you MAY wake her up by being the man that you want to be. Your actions need to be consistent.

I know I can be consistent, I just wish I knew what was working for me.

If you want...look me up on the alt.

Whats the alt?

Thank you eric.

Aces.