setting boundaries when not clear if A is over

[newmama]

Well, the last email is better but it's too friendly. No, I meant "Penny" because the letter I copied into your thread was written by her (but Puppy might have edited it now that I think about it!)

Anyway, I would advise this email:

"Thanks for keeping me up to date with what’s going on.
I am sorry things didn’t turn out as you'd hoped. It sounds tough out there, but you're bound to get a break eventually

Baby and I are doing well. Having space and peace right now is really important for both of us... thanks for respecting this. I will let you know when I am ready to see you again.

My maternity leave (at ½ pay) starts in four weeks time. My salary will cover the mortgage for those 6 months I'm receiving payments, but there'll be nothing left to cover our combined living expenses plus baby costs. As I don’t believe eating into our savings is the way to go, I'll be making a few decisions in the next while re finances and living arrangements. I'll let you know what is happening.

Take care".

I really love how you "take charge" in the final paragraph. And I am torn about the Take care closing but remember to when I was no contact newmama and when I had to write an email regarding business matters, I signed it "take care" as well. So don't want to be hippocritical, lol!

So I added the comment about you letting him know when you will see him again because well, not to sound sexist but it is, men need black and white communication at times. By you saying "thanks for respecting my space" (in so many words) it sounde like you are are just thanking him. It didn't sound like "I can't see you know. Please respect my space." SO I added that last suggestion.