Are you getting good marital advice?

[newmama]

Lotus, thank you for posting this. I have looked for your story but haven't found it yet! I would love to learn how you reconciled and what you went through, etc.

Now- did you do any kind of checking up on your spouse/ requiring transparency, etc. when you reconciled with him?

and let's remember something...when there are problems in the marriage, IT IS THE JOB OF THE SPOUSE TO TALK ABOUT IT. Problems never justify having affairs. So the LBS can improve their areas of weaknesses but it was never their fault that the spouse cheated on them. If you read the perspective of the wayward spouses (survivinginfidelity.com) 100% say there was something wrong with themselves; NOT their spouse. THEY had the insecurity issue.

So we shouldn't treat our spouses like crap, but I don't think it's fair to say that if we had problems in the marriage then it will CAUSE them to cheat ;-)