I guess what it comes down to is I'm scared. There, I said it, I'm scared. How pathetic.
I know standing up to her at the right times will improve me whether she decides to stay or not. It's hard putting into action, though. I can detach somewhat. I can act as if somewhat. I don't talk about R or the future anymore. I understand a lot of the DB principals but can't get over the hump. I know what I need to do but worry about pushing her out the door. It would be a big 180 for me to do this and I am working on it. Why should I worry about her leaving, she's gone already.
I'm scared. I hate admitting it with all the good advice I've been given, but there it is.
So stop feeling and start thinking.
Do what works.
Make goals.
Open your mind.
Try something new.
Understand the source of the fear and dispute it.
Your W can feel that you are scared, she won't be attracted to that.
What can you do that is healthy and productive for you that could earn resppect with your wife?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
