you have to gauge her commitment level to your marriage yourself :
well....last night i layed down my boundries in order for me to consider reconcilliation, she was fine with #1 - no contact....ever. #2 - total transparency #3 - she has to carry 50% of this load with me, she has work she needs to do.
but when i told her we will see how the summer goes and figure out what we will do with our R, she kind of got upset. I asked her did she just think i am just going to welcome her back with open arms if she doesn't do some work on herself as well?
she then asked about the books i reccomended and how i found them - told her all you have to do is research and it is amazing what you can find....this forum is my place, not for her.
i got out my copy of DR and told her if she wants to check it out she can....it describes us to a T.
she read almost half the book last night and realized what i did when i read it, how things we did in the past lead us down a road that has us where we stand today. But the most affect the book had was that it was someone else totally describing her and her actions without even knowing a thing about her.
hopefully for us, she continues to want to work.
question for anyone who read this far and has an opinion - she does not want me in contact with OM W - she has filed because he has been a habitual offender and i don't blame her. I think she is searching for details (dates, times, places...ect) to nail him to a wall.
my W tells me that every time she calls me or texts me that it brings it all up again and i will not be able to get passed it as long as i keep in contact with her - so the question is....do i continue contact or do what my W is asking and cut my contact with her as well?
I am still on the edge of darkness, but trying to go towards the light.
M-37 W-36 S-11, S-9, D-4 PA exposed 3/13/10 10/19/10 moving on... most up to date sit
