Luv, You need to blow this affair wide open. Its not fair to OW's H to be the odd person out. He deserves to know what his wife is doing, protect himself financially, legally and to check his health.
You can't fix your M until OP is out of the way...
Bust the affair wide open... what's the worst he could do? Divorce you? You are already there... so you have nothing to lose!
Hang in there!!!
T
ME28,WAH30, M 5YRS, T 7YRS ,OW/ILYBNILY/SEP 9/09 Served with D papers 6/6/10 Current