<<The email wasnt nice. And it was about my feelings, not looking for decisions or anything. Just my feelings and my thoughts. I know he is probably upset now, he came in and I faked sleeping just to allow him some room to breathe and not feel attacked by me. My plan for today is to be calm and sweet, just to show him that I dont want to allow the negatives to affect our process of "piecing".>>
hey Maria, a couple of us here suggested to perhaps postpone this discussion and work on your recurring feelings. However, you are at the front line and know best.....I hope. From my bird's eye view of your sitch across the pond, it appears that whenever there seems to be some positives in your relationship you feel compelled to share your (negative) feelings (usually about the past, not neccesarilly about the present and rarely about the future). In the precarious position that you guys are in, I have suggested to you to ask yourself (prior to sharing those feelings) what possible good can come out of this? How you would feel if the roles were reversed? Again it seems that you have this uncontrollable urge to talk about the affair. I will say it one more time (I believe a few others have as well), perhaps councelling is the way to go. First alone and then together.
<<I think we are still in friendship. Maybe moving to romance a little bit lately. God this takes forever!!!>> What is it they say? Good things come to those who wait? Perhaps you should wait before your next "feelings" exchange. You may be contributing to it taking forever.....just my two cents.....
