"All rise"

[Bworl]

Frank,

This is enough to cause one to become an activist in changing the ridiculous family law in New York (and other places I imagine).


I can almost feel the battle within you. An incredible anticipation for freedom from the oppression you have been under, while at the same time the intense sadness of not having your children with you each day. Know that we empathize with you on this.


I will actually hope, with others, that XXX will find herself eager as time goes by to allow the children to spend more time with you. Perhaps when she no longer needs to put on a show for the legal proceedings, she will return to her self-indulgent ways, and find that things would be better for her if she let the children stay with you more often. I suppose it's not so nice to wish that upon her, but I hate the thought of you only having 2-3 nights every couple of weeks with you little ones.


As for the rest, does it sound like you've made out reasonably ok? I get that sense, but I'm not sure. Divorce is always messy and always costly.


Haven't heard more recently about future possibilities. Are those still on the horizon? I'm hoping so. Perhaps that will make it easier to get more time with your children.


In the end, the relief of finally beginning your new life will hopefully be like the proverbial breath of fresh air. You have labored through one of the most horrific co-habitational situations that I can ever recall reading on this board. You've managed to navigate your way through this with dignity, grace, and honor, all the while choosing to be the better person.


I will echo Kalni and tell you that I am not willing to lose the friendship that we have made, even if it has been electronic only to this point. You were not only a rock for your children through your personal situation. You have been a rock for many through this site. I completely understand the need for a time of healing, and can appreciate that this place might be too stark a reminder of the last several years. At the same time, you have and may continue to serve as an invaluable help to others going through similar circumstances.


And on a selfish note, I would hate the thought of losing touch with a valued friend.



To the end game Frank.


You have perservered and risen above the chaos, emerging not just intact, but better than you were before.


You have epitomized our call of "strength and honor."




To new beginnings...


Bill