Tonight after lights out when I was still in their bedroom, D3 was talking about being scared of ghosts . Also a new thing around here.
I think I'm seeing signs that the 2 overnights in a row are hard on the kids. But I don't think I can tackle this with H on my own. Lots of hesitations about getting professional help with coparenting though. Definitely lots of D talk involved, and my DB coach warned against that. I need to let things settle more until I feel more clear.
You are the mom, you know best. I dont see that in what you are writing though. It is a change for them. Changes always have some impact, even good changes. When I take my kids out late, when we have fun but change our daily schedule, we suffer the hang over effect the next couple of days, dont you?
Listen, your RESPONSIBILITY and DUTY is to make this EASIER for them. Kids suffer enough during this phase when their parents separate/divorce etc. Parents are IMO, 100% responsible about how they make their kids see this transtion phase. I failed by 80%. I know that now.
Look at people that did/are doing a good job around here, check out KerryK, John210 and many more... Those that didnt have whacko spouses and handled it with their kid's best inetrest in mind, managed to minimize the effect and are raising kids that are complete and not miserable.
Look deep inside and if you are confident it's them that you are trying to protect, do what you have to. K
. Also a new thing around here.
