Mother's Day did not quite end on a high. S17 did his usual trick of not coming home from work (even though I offered to pick him up). In fact he didn't come home until 6am the next morning. This was despite me txting asking to know at least where he was and that he was safe. I wasn't worried until his GF txt me at 2.30am asking if he was at home b/c she had been talking to him right up to 1.30am and then he had just stopped answering her calls and txt. He had told her he was home with me. Really he was at a club.
When he did come in I decided not to scream and shout as he would have expected but I calmly asked him if he was ok and then enquired where he had been. His reply to the second bit was 'walking'.
V long story short we sat and had a heart to heart over breakfast, just he and I, and it seems he trusts no-one (and I mean no-one). It broke my heart to hear what he was sahying but I let him get it all out. (or at least as much as he was prepared to let out). I think we may have had a breakthrough b/c when he came home he was all for going out and trying to rent a flat now, for the time being at least, he is staying.
X has not even contacted him to see how he is.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
This was despite me txting asking to know at least where he was and that he was safe. I wasn't worried until his GF txt me at 2.30am asking if he was at home b/c she had been talking to him right up to 1.30am and then he had just stopped answering her calls and txt. He had told her he was home with me. Really he was at a club.
