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Wow... what you said there really hit home. You mean in his "REPLAY" he just doesn't "remember/acknowledge" ME/US?


No, he's reliving his life in his head BEFORE he ever met you; gone all the way back to his childhood, as weird as that sounds.

I did indeed, deal with that; and it was weird when I saw it..the funny thing was, when I was going through my own transition; I would look at my husband; and think..."Now, who is this man again, and what is he to me?" I was living in a time BEFORE I met him, and forgot who he was to me at times. I have flashes of memory like that where I remember how I felt the SAME way he did when it was him.

My husband, more or less, finished his MLC nearly 8 years ago, and as he came out, I went in, staying within mine for 6 years..I came out nearly two years ago.

I came back, initially, to get some help with some new issues that have popped up concerning my husband, got some answers, then stayed to help for a time before I leave again.
I never believed in asking for help; without giving back something in return.

The rationality and logic you're hearing from me, is old memories that pop up from time to time; as I remember what I experienced when the right questions are asked. smile

There came a time in this that I accepted what happened within his MLC, worked through it, as well as took my individual journey to wholeness, forgave all, and integrated every bit of it into my life. In time, I healed completely; and you will too.

The place I'm in now, is a much different place; but I haven't forgotten how deep the pain can be, though I no longer feel that pain within me.

If someone had told me over 8 years ago that I'd see the place I'm in now, I would have said they didn't know what they were talking about, I was hurting that badly.

But I DID cross over, and make it through this trial, in that process becoming a better person, though I could NOT see beyond my own pain at the time I was experiencing it.

You can and will, too...ANYONE can do this. The journey doesn't help you get there overnight, but in time you will make it across.

Regardless of what happens, you'll become a better, stronger person than you were before...and you'll see things more clearly.

Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.