And speaking of totally inconsistent stories in various media, here's an update on my pet peeve.

I hear on this board and other books that women come into their sexual prime in later years. I fully believe your encouraging stories, but I think you're the exceptions when it comes to the 40+ women, and especially 50+ and 60+ women. Here's a recent article in TIME:

Even in Old Age, Men Want Sex More Than Women Do

Here's a portion:

Older women also enjoy the sex they do have far less than older men. Married women ages 57 to 64 who haven't been divorced or widowed report having about as much sex as married men in the same age group. But while 77% of partnered men in that age group say they are interested in sex, only 36% of partnered women report the same interest. These figures suggest that a lot of older women may be having sex when they don't really want to.

Yep, totally consistent with my experience and that of a handful of friends. Of course, these are just statistics, and they mean nothing if and when you find the woman who is the exception.