I keep going back to some of Jack's posts and I believe it to.

I haven't read all of your thread, but my wife had sex before we were married, for one.

Two AND THIS IS HUGE...IT ISN'T A TRUE RELATIONSHIP,it's a fix, seperate the person from the behavior, seperate the person from the behavior, you know by now this isn't the wife you married.

AND LIKE MOST OF US,even though we know our spouses are flipping nuts, we had probably the best relationships with them, that they'll ever know.