setting boundaries when not clear if A is over

[Piano]

the latest....

Dear -
Thanks for your email. Sorry things didn't go so well for you. It's a tough market, but I'm sure something will come up.

Though far from being my wish or choice, I understand that you are done with us, and you are very sure we have no future. The future we do have now is our joint investment is in this child...

Having space and peace right now is important for both me and her... we're doing well... so thanks for respecting this.

I’m also using this time to think things through and start making important changes –for me.

Though you say it's not important to go into the process of how we got here, I know you have legitimate complaints about my role in the dysfunction/breakdown of our marriage. I need to tell that by ending our marriage the way you have, by committing adultery, cutting and running, refusing marriage counselling, while I am pregnant, means I won’t be able to be your friend, much less best friend.

Just finally, I am also going over our finances - in four weeks time I’ll be on maternity leave at half-pay, and my salary will no longer cover the mortgage, my living expenses, yours and the baby costs. I have decided it’s not wise to eat into our savings, and it’s not sustainable anyway. I will, though, be in touch about any important decisions I make.

Take good care

Thanks for any comments/suggestions. although I would love to, I must refrain from saying "I love you" - I've said it over and over already, and WH just hates it.

I'm gonna sleep on this & keep my fingers away from any "send buttons' :-)

Thanks guys, you are great support.