today: my turn to take d to family counceling tomorrow ...we alternate and then all go.anyways i mention to h while talking on the subject that we may benifit more from mc if we go individually and then together, also to do the mc with fc to keep it all together...SHOCKER...
h says that he was being sarcastic when he said he would go!
that is bs...i was there right in front of him to see and hear it...why??? why??? why???
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Yes, they do that, say one thing, then do another...dig deeper for patience, Lost; I understand the shock..and then they said they DIDN'T say what you KNOW they said.
The masters of mind games..I remember those days..no good to argue; just go on with your life AS IF..is all you can do, and hope they follow your lead.
Besides, he's got to get clear of the fog BEFORE counseling does any good at all. Some things they have to work out on their own, and you have to be very patient, while they do that.
I'm sorry, Lost, I've seen this happen, too. Not the same situation, but several similar things; where things got ALL twisted up like a pretzel.
Please don't get upset with him; just be there for him; it's not easy for him, either to waffle like that.
Detach even more, and you'll see more clearly that he's in quite a bit of pain, honestly.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
