Is the OM married?

Tell his WIFE about the phone calls.

And yes, your wife is showing all the key indicators of an EA

DR will not work on an EA, you need to attack the EA

Jasper's on the right track

1. Collect Intel
2. Expose the EA to supportive friends and family, and OMW if he's married
3. Confront W with an intervention
4. Protest and Protect yourself

we are on step 1 yet.