I can't believe this... my WH started doing the same thing. THANK YOU, I've noticed it a while ago in person and in texts or e-mail. He was never this "formal". I'm actually upset by it, it makes me feel that he treats me like a stranger, that he is putting up a wall. Before it used to be "thanks sweetie"
Can't take it personal, Mila; at least he IS saying thank you at all. They can be SO rude sometimes, BUT you have to remember he is at a time in his life BEFORE he met you, as weird as that seems...that's why you really do need to detach and distance..when you're looked at and treated as a total stranger, it can be VERY unnerving.
I can remember a point in time when my husband told me that it "seems you can help me"...just like he'd NEVER known me..and at that point in his life HE HADN'T and DIDN'T. It did me NO good to tell him that we'd been married at that time for over 16 years...He seriously did NOT know me at all; just was vaguely aware of me.
I was detached enough at that point to really see what was going on, and didn't take it personally at all.
When you get enough detachment and distance going..you'll see MORE things..it's like stepping "OUTSIDE" the box and looking back in.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
