You're right, of course, Sandi. Like I said, though, if this was like the old days and things were good between us, I wouldn't mind at all. It is her and her sisters. No big deal. I know it's not the old days. I hate being such a nice guy! I'm trying to be there for my kids and, at the same time, trying to figure out how to...what? stand up to her? Just reading that makes me sound like such a pu$$y! How did I let this happen? All I have ever tried to be is a good dad and husband. I've been told by my family and her family, what a good dad I was and how it's great that I am that close to all my kids. They wish their husbands were as involved in their kids lives as I am. I'm not tooting my own horn at all. I am far from the perfect father. We always said to each other, now that we have kids, they are our first priority. We don't make a lot of money and stopped doing things together so we could do more with the kids. That was after we had the twins. After the other two, I was satisfied doing things with them and every once in a while the two of us going out. She always said her priorities were the same. I guess "sucker" fits me about right. I know I am guilty of not telling her how much I loved her and appriciated her and the two of us took our relationship for granted. I didn't look to someone else to fill that void. I thought that after the kids grew up, and they grow up so fast, there would be more than enough time for us. I would always be there for her and she for me. Wrong!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I get so caught up in being patient, not asking questions and validating her that I guess I forgot to keep looking for my balls. I will have to move that to the top of my list! I am a good dad, I want to be a good husband, but I don't want to be a sucker anymore.
Thanks, Sandi. It's good to hear from you again. Hope you are doing well.
