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Hey doc... Im still right here with you. I might not be able to respond, but im here in spirit!!

Im glad you are doing something for yourself, and going back to school is exciting!!

I am happy that you are sounding up beat about everything... This whole thing does take its toll... Sometimes its just SO hard to stay positive...

Hang in there my friend and good luck...

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porn issues, and much more... since 7/06

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"Hey doc... Im still right here with you" And I am here for you too.... grin

I do not know just how to explain it... Things are just going really good right now. I almost feel like anything is possible.

No word yet from the feds about the grant but I have all my paperwork in order with the school so as soon as I get the acceptance letter I am set to hit the road running…

Have two interesting stories here...

One...As I said my wife surprised me and went to my cousin’s funeral with me. It was out of the blue because I never expected her to go...
Then Saturday some neighbors of my mom invited us to a ST.Patricks day party that have every year. W has been sick or something came up in years past and has not attended in years. I have gone every year...
Well wife informed me that she was going to go this year... But I could tell she really did not want to go. She is not very sociable outside her friends…
Later she kind of he hawed about going and I told her
Me: To tell you the truth I would rather go by myself if I have to worry about you enjoying yourself the whole time.
Remember when we first started dating and you used to always worry about me having a good time around your friends even though I was…
W: Ya I remember
Me: well that is the way I feel. It’s not that I don’t want you to go. I would like you to be there... but only if you want to be there...I am ok with that. Do you understand what I am saying?
W: I know what you mean
Me: Ok I will just tell them if anybody asks that you are helping your Mom…
W: Thanks
It felt really good to me. I felt in charge by letting go... I mean I could have felt in charge by making her go...
But even though she was kind of having her way it was on my terms…IT’s hard to explain...

Ok now story two...

About ten Years ago I sold my boat to get some money so I could by W a new car frown I sold it to a guy I knew at work that lived about 40 miles from me. (This is important to the story)
Well about two years later the guy got laid off and I lost contact with him...
Last week I went to pick up my D from the bus station across town. It is located on a screwed up street and since I have my Jeep I usually just cut across this field and park there and wait for her.
Well last week it was night time and as I cut across this field a came across this boat in the middle of it.
I parked there to wait for my D and was looking at this boat and boy it looked familiar. confused
So I got out and started looking at it. The trailer looked like my old one. The boat had an antenna mount like the one I installed. The cables for the depth finder I installed were there. But the boat looked like it had been parked under a tree for about 5 years and the propeller was missing. Then my D walked up and said. That looks like your old boat. I agreed. She said she remembers playing up front with her sister when she was little.
Well I took a picture of the boat numbers. (What did we do before cell phone cameras) and went home and forgot about it. The next day I remembered so I got some old pictures out and IT WAS MY BOAT... laugh

I contacted the brother if the guy I sold it to and got some bad news that his brother after getting laid off fell into the wrong crowd and was doing allot of drugs and over a year ago had a brain aneurism (sp)
He was put up in a home and the drugies took over his house. He told me the last time he saw the boat it was parked alongside the house under some trees and he had no legal say about what happens at his brother’s house.
I thanked him and said how sorry it was to hear about his brother... Anyway I have some connections at the P.D and am waiting to hear if it was abandoned if I could reclaim it somehow... My son (who was a baby when I had the boat) is all excited. Me... Well it needs allot of work and if I get it that is fine... If not oh well...

What is strange about this story is that it was 40 miles away from where I live. It could have been abandoned anywhere... there are hundreds of country roads. Heck it could have been left anywhere in the town I live and I would not have seen it even but it ends up in the town I live right where I would see it…

My horoscopes for the last few days have also been great…
Yesterdays….
Sunday, Mar 14th, 2010 -- This is a powerful time in your life and avoiding the serious issues won't help you solve the underlying problems. But balancing the gravity of these times with the potential levity of your emotions today can be tricky business. Although it may not be appropriate to concentrate only on having a good time, a bit of fun now can be revitalizing and help you face the challenges ahead

Today’s…
Monday, Mar 15th, 2010 -- You may get a whole new lease on life, thanks to today's New Moon in your sign. Every way you turn reveals another path you haven't yet thought about taking. But there's no need to rush into anything at this time. You are an explorer, but your uncharted lands are not in the outer world; they are within you. Take your time and consider each option before making your choice.

And tomorrows...
Tuesday, Mar 16th, 2010 -- You are standing in a tricky spot, for yesterday's New Moon marked the beginning of a new phase of your life. But today your eager anticipation runs into a roadblock, making you wonder if you are even on the right path. Don't get discouraged because the current obstacles are a test to see if you are really serious about what you are doing. This is no time to quit; your hard work is building a strong foundation for your future

I truly do feel like I have been getting a whole SH*t load of lemons these past few years and now I am making lemon aid……….

P.S the wedding is in another two weeks….. Food… wine…. Dancing…….and…. just maybe…… blush


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Doc,

Have you had any intimacy with your W at all? I mean a kiss or anything? Sounds like you're putting alot of your eggs in one basket for this wedding.

What if nothing does happen?

Incidentally have you two ever sought MC?


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Passion, yet serenity.
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Bond,

YEARS ago in the beginning she saw her MC and I had mine. She joined me with mine for one session and did not let me join her with hers. I did offer...

I don't know how to explain it Bond... Yes we kiss...but "I" feel it is kind of like we are at the "dating stage" she is always doing things for me.
She is not one that shows affection, (unlike me)...and I feel we just need to cross this bridge and get past the past for the sake of the future.
And hey I am not expecting anything to happen I AM hopping for something...but if it does not happen oh well. At least I will know where I am at.

Something has to change soon. My son and I were talking and I really did not get into it but it came across to me that he thinks I kicked his mom out of “our Room” he did not say that but that is how it came across...
I cannot have him thinking that.


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I hear ya Doc.

It just seems like in your sitch she's just going through the motions. Kind of like she's on Auto-Pilot and needs a jumpstart. Maybe C would be good again.


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Originally Posted By: MrBond
I hear ya Doc.

It just seems like in your sitch she's just going through the motions. Kind of like she's on Auto-Pilot and needs a jumpstart. Maybe C would be good again.


Yep But I don't think she will go to a MC...

Ok I did hear this on the radio the other day and with Tomato always posting things from the scriptures I figured it was my turn...
Dedicated to the OM "I pray for you"



I havent been to church since I don’t remember when
Things were goin’ great ‘til they fell apart again
So I listened to the preacher as he told me what to do
He said you can’t go hatin’ others who have done wrong to you
Sometimes we get angry, but we must not condemn
Let the good Lord do His job and you just pray for them

I pray your brakes go out runnin’ down a hill
I pray a flowerpot falls from a window sill and knocks you in the head like I’d like to
I pray your birthday comes and nobody calls
I pray you’re flyin’ high when your engine stalls
I pray all your dreams never come true
Just know whereever you are honey, I pray for you

I’m really glad I found my way to church
‘Cause I’m already feelin’ better and I thank God for the words
Yeah I’m goin’ take the high road
And do what the preacher told me to do
You keep messin’ up and I’ll keep prayin’ for you

I pray your tire blows out at 110
I pray you pass out drunk with your best friend and wake up with his and her tattoos

I pray your brakes go out runnin’ down a hill
I pray a flowerpot falls from a window sill and knocks you in the head like I’d like to
I pray your birthday comes and nobody calls
I pray you’re flyin’ high when your engine stalls
I pray all your dreams never come true
Just know whereever you are, near or far, in your house or in your car,
wherever you are honey, I pray for you.
I pray for you

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I THINK I GOT THE GRANT TO GO BACK TO SCHOOL grin


You know how government letters are so screwed up they just can't say yes or no... But as far as I can tell it's a go...

I called the Councilor and left a message.....Stay Tuned….


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teach you patience, sweetness, insight... When we do the best we can, we never know
what miracle is wrought in our life, or in the life of another.
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!!! well?? !!!


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I am 99% sure I read it right but have not heard back yet...

I interesting update.....
I have read allot of books that were suggested here to help my sitch. I tried to get wife to read some but "I Don't like self help books" So I gave up.

Well....

Her sister is all into the book "secrets" and is always doing yoga and reading self helping books. Well she was on the phone with her sister the other day and she said something about the mail. When she got off the phone I asked her what that was about and she said that her sister bought her a “positive thinking” book for her to read...

ALSO Wife kept saying she wanted to get back to ‘curves’ and do something about her weight. She added that she would really like to get a “Wii Fit”. I told her to go ahead if that what she wants...She has been in a great mood.

Ok back to cleaning up the back yard for son’s B- Party Saturday... (Hey the weather is great it is in the lower 80’s today...

Bye
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