meghunny, I'm so sorry I've been lost in my own sitch for a couple days. Snooping always leads to hurt and panicky feelings. I probably should have warned you. But we all snoop, no matter how hard we try to fight it. The best I can do is tell you that the less you snoop, the better you'll feel. Though it's been argued that you want that information to confront them later. So, the decision is yours really.

Just keep in mind that H will speak in complete negatives right now because he is MLCing (IMO, every WAS has a little bit of MLC - going out and partying, acting completely opposite of who they were when you met them). It's his decision if he stays this person or "reverts" back. But by DBing, you're not pushing him TOWARD a life of partying.

The whole "Do you have a boyfriend" thing, IMO, is him testing the waters because he either is IN an affair or is thinking about one. I can't sugar coat this any. He's decided that you are what is wrong with his life and thinks that another woman will be what makes the difference. The best thing you can do is DB your butt off. If you have to go NC, you do. I really wish you would have gone on that cruise you were talking about, would have been great for him to see that you were having a just dandy time without him and he's not getting to you.

((HUGS)) I'm here for you, even though my advice is probably horrible right now.


Me: 26
Ex: 27
Son: 5

Divorced: 3/2010
Each day is another opportunity to do it right.