FReckle - I would love to think so - I'm happy to tell myself this lie. However, the words coming out of his mouth still say the same old thing - "I don't have much hope we'll be able to make this work. People don't change. IT's the same old thing with us. We'll never change. IT's been bad chemistry from the start." But secretly hoping he's too proud to admit that yeah, I"m changing and so he better keep up.
Anyway, this is the thought I'm holding in my head. That I"m changing and so must he if this is going to work~!
FM, my H often says our M shouldn't be this bad, never should have been, etc. But as much blame as I have suffered, he is owning his own "anxiety" issues by taking these meds. When I set a boundary a few weeks ago, then did not answer my phone or pursue like I usually do for the rest of the day, it was HIM that called later and said he was calmer because he took a med. The way I saw it, he couldn't bait me, couldn't blame me, so had to do something himself. So in that way, it's partly me.
