Expose her to om w immediately and get her away from the kids.
Seriously, do you think it's a good idea to keep om w in the dark about this? After you expose her to the other spouse, tell your w that that is only the beginning if she doesn't knock it off! You will start telling everyone else too. Then, do it!
Oh, and boo-f'ing- hoo! She's "addicted." Even more reason to get her away from your children. Act quickly and decisively. Do not give her time to think and jerk you around in "counseling."
