why is she still in the house? Why is there still internet...I may be out of line...I'm not good at this either but you are reacting out of emotion...you really had a great opportunity to do what Rob and Gno said...hit her w/ everything, get her out, and go DARK...
Shock and Awe...not piec by piece, will you do this will you do that...you are bargaining w/ her then admit that you cant believe what she says anyway...
I did the same thing and my sitch is about as effed as you can get...hit her hard w/ facts- NEVER diclose your intel, and get her out of the house!!!
