setting boundaries when not clear if A is over

[Piano]

Piano, are you relieved to hear about the custody rights from the L?

Yes, I am happy to have the clarificaiton. Of course he has 50-50 rights, but a court would first look at my needs which are essentially intertwined with bub in first few years. in my country the emphasis is very much on parents coming up with a plan themselves, and leaving the law out of it (unless one party has a greievance of course)

I agree with Maynard- nothing to respond to. Especially if you are doing N.C.

Oh wait- Did you ever email him what you posted here about how it is too hard to see him while he is doing this?
This could be a way to say that now. However youcould also wait and then send it separately. BUt I wouldn't be sympathetic to his sitch.

No I haven't, which is why this might be the time...

Yeah, it's tough being jobless. But don't you think it's toughER to be abandoned when you are pregnant?

For sure. Must always remember that! Not hard !!

Now, if you don't feel like responding or saying anything at all to his email, then Let me put it this way- if you don't respond, it is not going to push him to D.

[/quote] ha ha! you know me well...