For a while there I saw small/tiny/miniture glimpses of the person my W used to be too. It is crazy how they change into a completely different selfish person.
It seems like a WAS can never completely change back. From what I have read here the WAH are more likely to come back, but the WAS is out there having different experiences during their WA that will change them permanently in some ways. It sounds like you are not even the same person since all of this began for y'all.
Did you tell his F about the P or did he? Telling his BF may not have been a good idea but IMO telling his parents is. He needs to accept his portion of the responsibilty for the P and hopefully his parents would hold him accountable (if he won't hold himself accountable).
P.S. It is good that you have recognized you were enabling him and you are going to stop. That sounds like a healthy step in detaching for you.
Last edited by Quart9; 03/16/1012:59 AM.
Me-32 W-29 No kids ILYBNILWY 11.20.09 Separated 01.10.10 Discovered EA 01.13.10 W admitted to PA 02.21.10 I filed for D 03.09.10
