The way I see it is that my W has become what I USED TO BE with my PTSD, and I in turn healed myself.
Remember in DB, or maybe it's DR (been a LONG while since I've reread them) about the teeter-totter effect? When the one spouse who has "always" been angry/sad/withdrawn changes? How it gives the other spouse the freedom to experience that emotion?
Always keep in mind a constant refrain in her head: is it real? And WTF couldn't he do this before (followed by it's too late, he waited too long)?
Pull back.
Let her think.
Show by your actions that you have changed. That you are trustworthy.
Don't push right now. She'll just pull away.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
