my husband didnt seek help...he had been on a/d for some time with nothing working. the doc actually ordered bloodwork. that is how we found out it was definately low t. as for the rest of the issues...mlc, depression and the fact that something is always wrong...ie illnesses, my h is still pretty much in denial. the only good thing is he follows docs orders...to be honest at first i went to the appt. with h. the doc has explained to him what is going on and he doesnt accept it. i think the doc is doing all he can...knowing this and that h wont reach out for the much needed help...
me 39 h 38 kids 9 and 6 h left 8/9/09 loving and devoted wife and mother still going...10 months later...
Lost, my H always has illnesses too. Complains about not feeling well all the time and it's a number of things wrong. Just out of curiosity, when you or one of the kids was not feeling well, did your H ever say he was feeling worse? Like it was a competition or something who felt the worst? Mine did, but would not seek medical attention.
It's the ow's problem now to listen to all that, although he will still complain to me if I have to call him with a illness that one of the kids has.
he is always tired( probably the depression) and it is always something with his back...he did injure it a while back, but knowing him as well as i do, did...he is totally milking it.
colds, flus and all others just tie in with it...
he has always, for the most part helped with the girls when i have really needed it and goes to family counceling after MONTHS of needing it. it also was there for me around the holidayswhen my ndad was hospitalized as well as seeing me through a surgery in Jan.
its like his heart is in the right places most of the time...just not his mind.
me 39 h 38 kids 9 and 6 h left 8/9/09 loving and devoted wife and mother still going...10 months later...
No problem, SA. I'm sorry I couldn't provide more help on that; but my husband was a stubborn man when it came to getting help for himself.
The only reason, he's stayed with a doctor for this long, is because if he doesn't keep his blood sugar level with meds and diet, he will fail his DOT physical, no longer being able to drive a truck.
Cannot understand why it sometimes makes him mad that I'm not on some kind of meds for anything myself, LOL!!
Lost, your doctor was a smart one; most of the time doctors don't think to look for low testosterone in men...they seem to keep prescribing A/Ds until they run out of them.
Hopefully, this will help your husband all the way around.
Got my fingers crossed for you.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
H is on some variety of anti anxiety meds - he really does need them to not be an explosive jerk! Many of the changes he's made can be at least helped by the meds, if not directly as a result of them.
so, h, who after 6 long months of wanting nothing to do with mc...said he wanted to came home but needed more time and would go to mc, this was like 2 weeks ago...
today: my turn to take d to family counceling tomorrow ...we alternate and then all go.anyways i mention to h while talking on the subject that we may benifit more from mc if we go individually and then together, also to do the mc with fc to keep it all together...SHOCKER...
h says that he was being sarcastic when he said he would go!
that is bs...i was there right in front of him to see and hear it...why??? why??? why???
me 39 h 38 kids 9 and 6 h left 8/9/09 loving and devoted wife and mother still going...10 months later...
I'm sorry I couldn't provide more help on that; but my husband was a stubborn man when it came to getting help for himself.