Partner left after 9 yrs - 18months on, reunited !

[AliSuddenly]

Hi everyone, thanks for the birthday messages! Wow, 39 now..eek!! I feel it, seeing as I just filled in our questionnaire for the fertility clinic as no bun in the oven as yet.

Clife - I too had an EA back in 2003, but my bf was very forgiving initially, although I have since discovered he had latent resentment about it! We did talk about it, but I would be the one to say, ok enough now, so on reflection we did succesfully piece after it but we 'papered over the cracks' in some respects, so my advice would be... talk talk and talk. Or, answer all of his questions at least, let him know you are now ready and able to be open and honest and completely there for HIM. As for winning back bf, yep I guess Jeff summed it up (virtually handsome).. I was a very studious DBer, I took all the advice and never let up thinking, planning, reacting to every contact from him, even when it was only a one line text telling me he had a dodgy bowel thing (ha, Jeff helped me reply to that one!)

So I got the ring back its still a buit loose but I am wearing it now so makes it more real! We have been googling venues and cupcakes and Morgan cars for hire and... god knows how we weill afford it with my debts, but we are currently favouring a rather amazing Elizabethan 16th century mansion !! Dream on...