One more piece of advice. Don't ever think you can guess what a WAS is doing. You will nearly always be wrong. You must alway remember, never believe anything you are told, and only believe half of what you see. Just because you don't believe she is not having cybersex in no way will mean that she is not. She has been caught, and if she is going to do it still, she will just take better precautions. Sucks, but may very well be true.
You will hear both sides of the story on exposing. I believe in exposure. I think the OM's W should be able to know the truth and deal with it how she will. Just my 2 cents of input on it. However, if communication has been cut 100%, and your W is being transparent in all communications, then maybe not, but if she is being shady still, you can count on communication still happening.
