It would annoy me, too, thinking that he might have just made himself at home during your absence. It's totally understandable that you would feel hurt if he doesn't contact you on your birthday. I would feel exactly the same way if my H overlooked mine. Mine is in October, but my H's is coming up in May. I have to decide how I'll handle it when the time comes.
I don't blame you for checking out your options. I know that you're frustrated at this point. It would be very interesting to imagine how your H would react if he got served with something.
As for me, nothing big or worth talking about in detail. Slow, steady progress with my H, but nothing remarkable or that hints toward reconciliation yet. I started a new thread (Number 8's Mistakes, Revelations, and New Methods, I think). Again, nothing earth-shattering, but things haven't taken a turn for the worse (knock on wood).
Please keep me posted on things. And I meant it when I said I'll help any way I can. Have a good week, and I'll be thinking of you.
