MF and FM (whoa- trippy!) I used my flatiron and my hair looked good! I just haven't had bangs since I was 12 though!
FM just remember there is natural beauty and "enhanced" beauty- be greatful that you have the natural kind!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
hey cool nm! you sound great!! and great job to H for doing all those helpful things! encourage good behavior and it can increase
now I want H to think that you are doing FUN things. that's why I want you to do something other than grocery shop. yes, it may be galing for you, but not in H's eyes. grocery shopping is a chore to him.
so what else can you do??
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
I still find it so interesting that your H is all about the acts of service. Yes some acts of service would be expected from a father who is trying to support the mother, but stuff like ordering you specialty lightbulbs for your bathroom...dare I say that it is courtship-like behaviour? Baffling to me how someone could be in an A and be doing stuff like that for you...?
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Saint, I so more than grocery shop, silly! In fact, I posted a recap of all my GAL- let me see if I can find it and repost:
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Oh and I don't consider cleaning to be GAL! haha
I have been home this whole school year! So for GAL I have done the following: -joined some meetup.com groups for wine tasting, and single parent group (just avoid the dating activities)
-started taking classes for belly dancing and pilates (need to sign up for next trimester!)
-dieting and working out
-watching new shows
-taking S to baby classes
-got a wii (used) and started playing Super Mario Bros ( a friend of mine got me interested!)
-planting flowers in pots on my deck (on my to do list today- will post pics on FB!)
-doing hair and make up (tomorrow have a hair appt!- will post pics on FB)
-bought different style blouses than before (with patterns)
-bought new pretty underwear and bras, pajamas
-am building a toy box for S (but breaking news! WH offered to help!)
As far as rearranging the furniture, not interested! But I have put up new framed photos of S, daddy and S, mommy and S, bought new couch pillows, some candles... whenever I see something that I think would look good in the house I get it if it is on sale!
THIS week:
Today: S and I have music class, and tonight, if the weather is nice I will be going for a long walk instead of using the elliptic. I am making pesto- mozzarella paninis for dinner!
Tuesday (WH is not here): My sister (in college) will go with S and I to the children's museum and we might go to lunch-depends on the time. I will make a baked version of chicken parmesan and serve with mustard roasted red potatoes.
Wednesday: Usually WH is here during the day on Wed but this week it is Friday. So Wed night I might see a movie (if the timing is right).
Thursday night I am going to see the Dress Rehearsal for America's Got Talent
Friday day WH is here- he wants to take us to lunch for my B Day. Now one problem I have is that of my coworker friends who live near me, only 2 know that I am separated and they work. Also, they have boyfriends and are not available to hang out with. So, I do things by myself a lot. My other friends live in different towns and have families. I do seem them every few weeks. For my B day, I usually do stuff with WH and them but this year they have plans and so I will be celebrating on a different day. No biggee!
As for the acts of service, they are good but also I am not a fool and realize some can be motivated by guilt!
There are some other meet up groups I might be interested in joining that have to do with cooking or eating out/trying new restaurants. I do need to work on contacting the single moms on my single parent group to see if we all want to do stuff sometime!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
On your birthday, it would be good for you to have dinner plans and have H look after S and wonder where's you're going looking all sassy . I have no idea if H gave a [censored] about it, but I did my hair totally different on my birthday before going out and he must have wondered what I was up to...
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Flow, goood idea! I need to figure this out though because originally I asked if I could keep S on my birthday night and he could take him the next day. So how can I work around this issue?
OR I could get all dressed up Saturday night when he takes S overnight...like I am celebrating then. What do you think? Oh and I am still going to see if one of my girlfriends is available on Saturday night!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Thx Blownaway...am working on my plans...bought myself some presents: red strappy patent leather sandals. a cast iron skillet and dutch oven, and Rocco Despirito's new low cal cook book!
And my goal was to lose 10 lbs for my b-day...last Thursday I was down 8 so hopefully by Fri I will be down another 2!!!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Flow, goood idea! I need to figure this out though because originally I asked if I could keep S on my birthday night and he could take him the next day. So how can I work around this issue?
Maybe you'll be asking him to change the plan because you suddenly have a very appealing dinner invitation on your birthday .
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
. I have no idea if H gave a [censored] about it, but I did my hair totally different on my birthday before going out and he must have wondered what I was up to...