Thanks for your thoughts Rabbit, Pearl and Hope...
I don't think the time is right. He has seen this site on my laptop before but I think he assumed I was reading articles on it, because he asked something to that effect. He also has seen the DR book, but hasn't taken much notice of it. I don't think he would pleased to see all that I have written about him/us/our sitch but frankly I don't care. I needed this, and I will always be grateful for what I received here. Pearl, I think when the time is right it will be in generalities. Thank you for clarifying it that way.
Hope - I like the idea of flowers! I have been thinking the past day or two about my frustrations that my H is not far enough in his own personal healing yet to give me a lot of what I need in the M. So, instead of stewing about that, getting down etc maybe it is time to meet some of my own needs. Flowers, even getting myself card, writing a nice note to myself.... not to show off for anyone to see or to try to "show" H what he should be doing. I would keep it quiet and to myself... but just for internal validation. I have also thought about taking myself out to dinner or a movie etc. H just is not initiating those things at all. He goes to work, comes home, goes to kids' sports, comes home etc. I think I need to get back to some of my own GALing and 180's that were helping me when the A was going on. The focus has been too much on him since piecing. Maybe my expectations of him have been too high for this stage of piecing and as part of my detaching process, I meet my own expectations. Just a thought process I've been sorting out the past couple of days...
