Sent a brief message at lunchtime. Just told him I would be sending a suitcase full of clothes with the kids on Wednesday so they wouldn't have to take things back/forth. Also said I had a msg. out to the allergy doc re. getting a second set of Nathan's allergy meds so we didn't have to pass those back and forth. Very matter of fact, polite, and drama-free.
He replied almost immediately:
Can we talk later tonight
I will come over after you put them in bed so they will not be disturbed
I too do not want this to be confrontational and want what is best for them (or at least as best as possible all things considered)
I have not replied yet...not sure what he wants...