What happened at the end of Nov? What prompted the change, or was she just ready at that time?

My WAW isn't in another relationship, she's in the house (I'm out at her request), and I've been doing a good job at GALing. We've been separated since Nov, and she really started being nice since Valentine's Day (sent flowers to her work). Then again, she's been going out and doing her own thing too. The last R talk we had was a month and half ago, she said her feelings haven't changed, that it's been nearly a year since this started. I told her that I wouldn't stand in her way of D, but she said nothing.

Just wondering what the next stage is, or how this progresses, or if it does. I've looked for similarities on this board, but most of the situations are in a very desperate stage (very unfortunate). I was also in a desperate stage at one time, she couldn't wait for the divorce, then I got a job, was improving mentally, found this board, and then the divorce slowed down (well stopped for now). We've been at this stage since Nov (at the time asked to wait until the holidays were over before proceeding, just trying to delay). She never picked it up again.

Jan was very cold, probably backlash from a good holiday season. Feb was also cold until Valentine's Day. She started reading a book I bought for her last Oct, and she's also reading lots of magazine articles (looking at both D and M, and well, how to get great abs). She started working out again, but not as vigorously as when she was in an online/phone EA, when she worked out religiously.

She used to listen to nothing but songs about breaking up, leaving a loved one, but now not so much, or at least as I can tell. She would play those songs whenever I was over there, but not any more.

How did your wife approach you? How did you get to where you are? How does this typically progress?

Last edited by AtTheEnd?; 03/15/10 07:30 PM.

M:39 W:37
Together: 16 years
Married: 11 years
Bomb: May '09 (ILYBNILWY)
Moved out: Nov '09
D: 10, 8, 4