lol - i don't want to be an evil prick bastard either
Certainly not.. this is how affairs are launched in many cases. THe marriage is struggling so one spouse feels they have the right to unilaterally and secretly act destructively to the marriage you two WERE building together .. clumsily but nonetheless you two were still trying to be constructive at the time.
When you divorce or act vendictively, you reduce your commitment to a similar level to that of the affai-engaged wayward spouse.
When you divorce or get otehrwise vendictive, you act out and act destructively much like the WS does... doiong more damage as an expression of your unhappiness with the marriage.
And I strongly suspect your wife's affair was a clumsy and hurtful attempt to sub consciously express how unhappy she was...
Sure, if there's milk spilt on the floor unloading the ENTIRE REFRIGERATOR on the tiles isn't gonig to improve things, but very often people attack taht which they are not successful at building... I don't know how many times I have wanted to toss my guitar out the window...
But, its not the guitar's fault, its my commitment level to that instrument.. a marriage is no different.
Don't get vendictive, you have fought for your marriage and imbued it with dignity... don't disgrace that now by a destructive rant... keep your head high.
