I had the kids for the weekend, W took a trip, so I stayed at the house. W's birthday is this week, so she considered this her "birthday weekend".
She called me twice Saturday because she was lonely and wanted to talk to her "best friend". Anyway, what she was doing, she went and got a hotel room in some random town, and was just hanging out by herself.
Sunday she met up with her meet-up group and did some activity in Napa valley.
I spoke to a mutual friend over the weekend, who is under the opinion that she's "self-destructing" and pushing all her friends away. This friend was eager to spend time with her this weekend, and was a little taken aback that she declined.
Anyway. So she got back Sunday; well the kids needed to be fed, and she was tired, and her birthday IS this week, so I said, let's all go out to dinner, and that was fine.
Part of the conversation, we talked about another couple, friends, where the W has filed for divorce and is going after it like a pitbull, with the money, custody, etc. And W says to me - "I guess I'm still looking for some acknowledgment that I didn't do that." Seriously - she wants me to THANK her? I didn't know what to say, I just said "Well I think we did a pretty good job of working through it, we had some rough spots, but, etc." And she says, "I did. I wasn't looking for you to complement yourself."
God. Whatever. No, W, I'm not going to see it as kindness that you filed for D, went and got yourself another man, lied to me, kept threatening me with court dates, never did what you said you were going to do. Yeah, there are some things to her credit, I'll give ya that, but seriously.
Oh yeah, and she was angry that I had my car parked in the garage when she got home. Said that she's having a hard time with the having to move out of the house, and that it made her feel like she was getting pushed out, and that I may not see it as a big deal, but she did.
Kidding me? Seriously?
Anyway, by the time we got back from dinner, got the kids in bed, she was in an increasingly foul mood, and I went on my way.
The only think I can say is, these are things to no respond to. She's got her perspective, fine, I don't need to validate it, and I don't need to challenge it either. I'm starting to fear a little that she may not follow through on signing the mediation agreement, but she wants this done so badly that hopefully that's not going to happen.
I've really been stupid. I'm there when she wants to call, and I'm there when she wants to kick. I need to remove myself from both. Yeah, broken record. I know.
